Consistency. What does this word really mean in life? What are the only constant things in life?
Many people will say “change”; sure, what else?
To me, consistency is my identity or in simple words, my name; the only consistency among all the other inconsistencies that I’ll go through in life. Everything in us changes, it doesn’t matter if we want those changes or not. It comes naturally in the different stages of life and we hardly notice it. That’s some smart trick life knows how to play really well. But the only thing that remains with you is your name. It sticks to you forever even after you die (in some cases people change their names too. So that is going to be an exception).
Why am I talking about my name today? Because I want to share with you the philosophy that connects my life and my name in a very weird way. Sometimes when I’m alone at home doing nothing, I think of very stupid stuff like “what if the sky was green” or “what if the world was actually black and white”. I like to make my own answers to these questions, even if they are horribly wrong and very stupid.
Coming back to my name, many people ask me what my name means. Most of the time, this is the first question that I get asked when I’m socializing with someone. Whenever I get asked this question, it reminds me of somebody who meant a lot to me because we connected through this question; but that person is no more in my life for many obvious reasons; but we will talk about that some other time.
Bithika. My name is a synonym of continuity. In Bengali it means a never ending path that is guarded by tall leafy trees on both sides. I find it a very strong coincidence that my name is what defines my life. The trees being my confidence and faith that protects my belief and the never ending path being the only road that I will travel to reach my destiny, unafraid and strong.
I am not at all proud when I say this but in a very young age I really have witnessed situations and circumstances that most of the people of my age has not, yet. I had to take very difficult and ugly turns because I had no choice. Few incidents have broken me and few shaped me up. So life is quite balanced as of yet.
The reason I’m saying all this today is because I want to make a point. The last three years of my life has been terrible and there were moments when I decided that this was the limit and I’m gonna give up, whatever happens let it happen. But today when I look back, I feel that was wrong in so many ways. If I really did give up that moment, I would not have been writing this now. It would not have been possible to share my experience with you guys. I did not give up but just like my name, I kept on walking on the never ending road of life and I haven’t yet stopped. And you must never stop either.
Why is it important to keep on moving forward? Very simple logic. When we start climbing a mountain, the view that we get to see from the bottom ain’t that thrilling. But as we keep on moving up, the view around us keeps on getting prettier. The more high we go, the more beautiful everything seems. Same with the road of life. You will never know what beautiful destinations are awaiting you until you keep on moving ahead. In life, whatever situation you’re in, good or bad, you’ll always have two options in your hand. To stay there and to move ahead. Now, there are few moments where you need to stay for a while to inhale the essence of the moment, but you must also know how long you need to stay because you have to walk ahead anyway. Learn to keep a hold on time.
So that was my life’s connection with my name which is an exact replica of myself.
Now it is your turn.Take some time and think about the ways that connects your life with your name. I’m sure you’ll find out because the only consistency that you’ll ever have is your name and your life in itself.